In today’s world, new parents are flooded with newborn care advice from every direction. A quick scroll through Instagram, TikTok, Facebook groups, or parenting forums can deliver thousands of opinions […]
If you’ve followed my work for any length of time, you know I believe that newborn care is far more than routine tasks and checklists. It is an invitation into one of the most extraordinary seasons of human development—a season that asks us not simply to do, but to notice. To witness. To respond with intention.
Poet Mary Oliver gives us three deceptively simple instructions for life:
Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.
As someone who has spent more than four decades supporting families and caring for newborns, I can tell you that these three lines capture the heart of what truly builds connection in the earliest days of a baby’s life. They are not just beautiful words; they are a framework for presence, bonding, and responsive caregiving.
Let’s take a deeper look at how this applies to newborn care—both for parents and for the professionals who walk alongside them.
When I train Newborn Care Specialists, I always emphasize that the very best caregiving starts with observation. Newborns communicate constantly, even though they don’t speak a single word. Their bodies tell their stories:
the soft rooting motions, the rhythmic hand-to-mouth movements, the brief gazes of connection, the subtle shifts in breathing.
Paying attention means choosing to slow down enough to actually see these cues.
It means learning the difference between a hunger cue and a fatigue cue.
It means noticing when a baby is overstimulated before they reach the point of tears.
It means recognizing those tiny signs that say, “I feel safe,” or “I need help.”
When your attention is steady and gentle, you give a newborn something priceless: a caregiver whose presence is predictable and attuned. For parents, this builds confidence. For professionals, this builds trust. And for the baby, it builds the foundation of secure attachment—something we know from research has lifelong benefits.
One of the things I love most about working with newborns is that they invite us back into wonder. In a world that moves fast, newborns move slowly. In a world filled with noise, newborns ask us to be quiet enough to hear the soft sighs and small coos that signal contentment.
Allowing yourself to be astonished doesn’t mean ignoring the exhaustion or difficulty of early parenthood. Those are real and valid. What it does mean is letting yourself pause long enough to feel the sacredness tucked between the challenges.
It’s the way a newborn’s fingers instinctively curl around yours.
The warmth of their body melting into your chest.
The moment their eyes briefly meet yours—and you realize you’re witnessing a brand-new human learning to trust.
Astonishment creates space for gratitude. It shifts the experience from “I have to” toward “I get to,” even if only for a moment. And those moments make an extraordinary difference during long nights and early days.
One of the most powerful tools we have in newborn care is also one of the simplest: our voice.
When you talk to a newborn—narrating what you see, what you’re doing, or what they are experiencing—you are doing much more than filling silence. You are building connection. You are helping regulate their nervous system. You are laying down the earliest pathways for communication and learning.
When you say,
“You’re stretching so big,”
“I’m right here with you,” or
“You’re working so hard to look around,”
you are giving a newborn a felt sense of safety.
This kind of narration isn’t baby talk—it’s brain-building talk. And whether you’re a parent or a Newborn Care Specialist, your words provide rhythm, predictability, and emotional security. Babies don’t need perfection. They need presence. They need a voice that feels steady and warm, long before they understand the meaning of any individual word.
Here’s a gentle challenge I offer to parents and NCS professionals alike:
Pause for one tiny moment each day this week.
Notice something small.
Let yourself be genuinely amazed by it.
And then share it out loud with the baby in front of you.
This small practice strengthens your awareness, increases your attunement, and reinforces your connection not just with the baby—but with the experience of caregiving itself.
As professionals, we sometimes get so focused on the technical aspects of our work—feeding schedules, sleep shaping, developmental milestones—that we forget the heart of what families truly remember: how we made their home feel calmer, how we helped them feel more confident, how we paid attention to their baby’s unique rhythms when they were too tired to notice anything at all.
These three instructions—pay attention, be astonished, tell about it—are not poetic extras. They are core professional skills. They are tools that elevate your practice, strengthen your relationships with clients, and ultimately support healthier, happier babies.
If this resonates with you… if you want to become the kind of NCS who leads with skill and heart… if you want deeper training rooted in evidence, attunement, and professional excellence… I would love to help you continue your journey.
Explore our full suite of trainings—including Foundational, Advanced, Elevate NCS™, Elite, and more—at:
👉 learning.newborncaresolutions.com
Your next step in professional development is waiting—and I would be honored to guide you there.
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